Disoriented, Socially – A Bingetherapy Remedy

Does the situation call for a handshake, a kiss on the cheek or perhaps a curtsy? It’s easy to feel socially disoriented when you enter a new world of culture, customs, and rules. Your up suddenly becomes down. Perhaps you’re meeting your family-in-law, or perhaps you’re sitting down for a meal with food you’ve never eaten before. I’m getting a memory flashback of my first meal eating with hands when I dove in with two hands like a toddler – everyone else at the table daintily ate with their right hand only. I still cringe thinking about it!

That is certainly what happened for Will in “a story all about how my life got flipped, turned upside down, and I’d like to take a minute just sit right there, I’ll tell you how I became the prince of a town called Bel-air.” Oh yes my friend, Fresh Prince of Bel-air is the source of much needed guidance in this time of adventure for you.

Be inspired by Will’s internal compass for what feels right for him, and how he’s able to lean on the wisdom of people like Uncle Phil after everything has gone wrong. It’s a good lesson in taking your next challenge and doing it your way – and perhaps also seeing the need to bring some flexibility.

Will’s sense of humour is his best body of armour – being ready to laugh during difficult times always makes things feel much better. Something Will has difficulty with is laughing at himself though, and it’s clear that he is still a young teenager without the maturity to laugh at his own flaws. You might like to enter into your next socially disorienting situation with a big sense of humour, but especially ready to laugh at yourself as you inevitably make some silly mistakes. No need to be beating yourself up about these things!

Alice also experienced a similar disorientation when she stumbled into Wonderland. Rumoured as a book that was written by Lewis Carroll when he was tripping off his balls on drugs, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland are full of stuff that just doesn’t make sense – and does it need to? It can still be delightful, and exhilarating, and perfectly possible to spend time in this space – despite not understanding what on earth is going on. Be comforted by your ability to let curiosity take you on the journey, rather than letting a reptilian part of your brain say it’s all just nonsense.

Will and Alice’s stories have reminded me that entering into socially disorienting events can be like going into a room of funhouse mirrors. The surroundings are different, and it can be hard to find much familiarity in what you’re seeing – but if you let go and have fun with it, it can be amazing to see all the different versions of yourself being reflected back. Bon voyage my friend!

Prescription for the socially disoriented – binge upon:

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