Hello. I’m Sarah Miller, and this is my blog, Stat Dec Life. Welcome!

 

About Stat Dec Life

 

 

Stat Dec Life is for people who love across boundaries, whether they are national borders, cultural divides, linguistic barriers, faiths, races, and whatever else might be your jam.

 

It’s called Stat Dec Life as a salute to people who need to write a Statutory Declaration to an authority in order to make their lives together – and all of the crazy weirdness that follows.

 

I made the collage above when we found out Homeboy’s permanent residency was approved for Australia. I’m holding a cake that says “about fucking time!”, as it had been a 12 month process of intense nerves and awkward conversations.

 

Of course, you don’t need to have been through a stat dec process to relate to this blog. If part of your relationship is ‘inter’, (inter-national, cultural, racial, faith), then there’s something here for you!

 

Here some things that make the foundation of Stat Dec Life:

 

 

  • Each of us has a unique and innate worth as an individual, regardless of our gender, sexual orientation, nationality, ethnicity, race, faith, age, past, present or future.
  • Human diversity makes for rich and vibrant societies, communities, families and relationships.
  • What works for you, might not work for me, and we’re both ok.
  • Differences are rarely right or wrong, just different.
  • White privilege is real and globally accessible.
  • Power is context based.
  • Racism is still alive and happening and affecting the lives of countless people.
  • The more you have blind faith in meritocracy, the less likely it is to be true.
  • It is so important to find a sense of connection and belonging in our lives.
  • We are all works in progress and should be able to learn and change as we go.
  • Sharing only shows respect when the receiver can take or leave it, and still be treated the same.

 

With those (rather serious) things in mind, the Stat Dec Life logo is a paper boat.

 

The amazing thing about paper boats is with just a few adaptations to a piece of paper, you have a vessel that can float and wind its way down a stream. The Stat Dec Life paper boat is all about the incredible resilience and adaptability of inter-relationships, making good lives wherever we find ourselves.

About Sarah Miller

 

 

One of my earliest school memories is receiving an award at a school assembly for creative writing. I had written a short story about a Canadian girl and her ‘mom’, after I had the fascinating discovery that North Americans spell mum with an ‘o’.

 

This little childhood memory highlights three things for me – firstly, that I have always loved writing, secondly, that I have always been fascinated by the world and people and culture, and finally, that I grew up in an incredibly homogenous place where I had to seek out diversity in books and TV.

 

So while I ‘won’ the birth lottery as a white person in a country town of Australia, it did mean I had zero idea about actually living in a diverse society. At 12 years old, I passionately debated with a French Canadian girl that I didn’t have an accent, she did!

 

Thankfully, that insularity was soon smashed by trips around the world, studying different languages, and the wonder of the internet. Also, in 2009 I met a guy that made me laugh, cooked great food and had a spectacular taste in music – I went full Stage-5-Clinger on him, and I’m so glad he let me stick around ever since.

 

It just so happened he was from a different country, with a different mother tongue, a different religion, a very different culture, and skin that has far more melanin than mine (which to be fair, isn’t hard). We’ve lived in both Australia and Singapore, sometimes with our families, and sometimes by ourselves. We’ve had amazing times, and we’ve had really shitty times. We have had to work at our differences, because it’s not easy being so damn different, but we’ve also found incredible strength.

 

A lot of this relationship, and our experiences so far, have led to me learning about things like white privilege, cultural clash, and that racism is still a very real thing. Also, the more we build our life together, the more I no longer feel like I fit in any particular culture or country.

 

The best thing I have learnt along the way is the importance of making a great life wherever we find ourselves.

It’s easy to get caught up in the hard stuff, to feel unsure of decisions, and to be scared of current politics. But there’s so much amazing stuff to celebrate, and that’s what I try to remember.

 

I spend most of my days working in Human Resources, and am an avid Netflix watcher. My creative juices are always flowing, and I have to be careful not to overload myself. But having a good laugh along the way makes even the busiest days feel good.

 

I thrive when I get to balance my time with family and friends and time alone. I love making, playing piano, reading, and listening to music. When I travel, I would prefer to miss the sights in favour of meeting strangers at a local eatery. I have a potty mouth, and my sense of humour can be biting. Sometimes it gets me in trouble, but it’s worth the risk for a laugh!

 

A friend once took me to pray at a temple in Thailand, we had to walk around the temple anti-clockwise, bow to certain statues, and eventually we could make a wish. I wished for a good life.

 

Some days it feels like the universe is in charge of making that wish come true, and some days I am in charge. Either way, I try to be very grateful.